When I first started helping men recover from heartbreak, I didn’t realize how many of them were stuck in the same emotional loop: trying to make sense of the pain, reliving the relationship, and silently hoping she'd change her mind. I’ve seen this with guys going through separation, divorce, and those caught in the wake of a sudden breakup. They don’t need another quote about healing—they need a proven path forward. That’s exactly why I wrote Forget That B*tch.
One guy I worked with—let’s call him Jason—was three months into his divorce when he found the book. He was still checking his ex-wife’s social media, still losing sleep replaying old arguments. After reading Chapter 2, "Rejection Breeds Obsession," something clicked for him. He realized he wasn’t missing her—he was trying to repair his sense of identity that shattered the day she walked out. That awareness changed everything. It was no longer about her. It was about who he was becoming.
Why Traditional Advice Falls Flat
Most of what men hear after a breakup is useless. "Talk about your feelings." "Give it time." "She’ll come around." I’ve seen too many guys sink deeper into confusion because of these lines. Forget That B*tch isn’t another motivational pep talk. It’s a tactical guide that calls out the patterns that keep men stuck—and teaches them how to break free.
There’s a story in the book about Steve, a recently divorced father of two. Steve followed all the mainstream advice. He went to therapy. He journaled. He even tried dating again just to feel better. Nothing worked—because he hadn’t let go of the version of himself that got left behind. When he started applying what he learned in the book, especially around frame and detachment, he stopped seeking closure and started creating a new life.
The Trap of Trying to "Fix It"
Men often believe they can fix the relationship, win her back, or prove they’ve changed. That thinking is one of the biggest traps. The book breaks down why trying to "reconstruct a failed relationship"—as Rollo Tomassi puts it—is a waste of your most valuable resource: your time.
Guys like Chris, a 40-year-old newly separated exec, found that insight liberating. He read Forget That B*tch twice and then picked up the 12-week workbook to hold himself accountable. He stopped blaming himself. He started lifting again. He even booked a solo trip to Colorado. That’s the kind of action that actually heals.
Reclaiming Yourself Isn’t Optional
The goal isn’t to win her back—it’s to win yourself back. The workbook that goes with Forget That B*tch gives you a real system: daily prompts, weekly targets, hard questions. Men who follow it get results. Not because they sit and think, but because they act. Letting go means building a life where she’s no longer the center of it. That’s what this process teaches.
If you’re separated, divorced, or just trying to move on from a woman who couldn’t see your worth, stop guessing. Stop hoping. Get the book. Get the workbook. Real change doesn’t come from thinking about it. It comes from doing.
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