Finding yourself single after a divorce can be overwhelming. It’s one thing to hear “time heals all wounds,” but another thing to wake up every morning wondering what you’re supposed to do next. The truth is, not all self-help books for men after divorce are created equal. Some promise quick fixes, others go heavy on theory. What actually works for men are books and approaches that make you take real action—practical, step-by-step, and focused on your growth.
That’s why I always point men to Forget That B*tch, and especially to the hands-on 12-week workbook. Over the years, I’ve seen firsthand how the strategies in this book have helped men move past pain, rebuild confidence, and build lives they never thought possible after heartbreak. Here’s how it works, why it’s different, and what you can expect when you commit.
Why Most Self-Help Books Don’t Stick
There’s no shortage of advice after a divorce. Family and friends mean well, but most men need more than just “talking it out” or “staying positive.” What they’re really searching for is a guide they can actually follow—one that understands what it feels like to have your world turned upside down. Forget That B*tch doesn’t sugarcoat what you’re facing. It recognizes the emotions and confusion that follow, but then it gives you the tools to actually do something about it.
I remember a client named Alan, who read countless books and articles after his marriage ended. He could recite plenty of advice, but none of it made him feel better. Once he started working through Forget That B*tch, he realized the problem wasn’t what he was reading—it was that he wasn’t taking any action. As soon as he started applying the steps from the book and using the workbook, things began to change. He slept better, felt more in control, and finally started to see a future for himself again.
Accepting What Happened—And Why That Matters
One of the biggest barriers after divorce is accepting that it’s over. There’s a temptation to replay every argument or try to figure out exactly where things went wrong. But Forget That B*tch stresses that acceptance is step one. No amount of analysis will change what happened, but you can decide how you’ll respond. Mark, another man I worked with, spent months asking himself “why” before reading the book. When he finally let go of the need for answers and started focusing on his own growth, everything else got easier.
No Contact: The Most Powerful Step
So many men sabotage themselves by staying in contact with their ex. Whether it’s for “closure,” because of shared responsibilities, or just habit, those connections keep the wounds open. Forget That B*tch makes it clear: no contact is the only way forward. After Josh’s divorce, he felt guilty cutting things off completely. But when he finally went all in on the no contact rule—and worked through the daily prompts in the workbook—he experienced real peace for the first time since his marriage ended. The urge to check her social media faded, and he started investing that attention into himself.
Why Obsession Keeps You Stuck
Divorce often leaves men in a loop, thinking about what they’ve lost or how things could have turned out. The book explains that obsession isn’t really about your ex at all—it’s about restoring your sense of self-worth. When you redirect that energy into your own goals, progress happens. Carlos, for example, found himself scrolling through old photos every night. Once he started tracking his habits with the workbook and focusing on new projects, he finally broke the cycle.
Building a Strong Foundation
Real change after divorce is about more than just moving past someone else. It’s about rediscovering who you are and what you want out of life. Forget That B*tch walks men through the process of rebuilding—not just their confidence, but their daily routines, mindset, and ambitions. Steve, who came into the program feeling lost and unmotivated, used the workbook to start setting simple goals. At first, it was as basic as walking every morning or reading a chapter a day. Over time, those habits added up to a completely new lifestyle.
Setting Boundaries (And Sticking to Them)
Divorce can leave you questioning your own boundaries. Maybe you let things slide in your marriage, or you find yourself accommodating everyone else’s needs. One lesson from Forget That B*tch is to get clear about what you will and won’t accept. Tim, for example, found himself constantly fielding calls from his ex about things that didn’t really matter. The workbook helped him practice saying no and making space for his own needs. He told me that the relief he felt was almost instant—because he realized he was finally putting himself first.
Moving Forward Is a Choice
Men who recover best after divorce are the ones who stop waiting for their feelings to change and start making different choices. Forget That B*tch is full of real-world stories about men who decided to take action—even if they didn’t feel ready. Sam, a recent client, started going out with friends, picking up hobbies, and exploring new interests, all because the workbook kept him accountable. He didn’t magically feel better overnight, but every day he spent focused on his own life moved him further from his past and closer to what he wanted next.
Dating Again—On Your Terms
The idea of dating again can be daunting, especially if your confidence took a hit. The strategies in Forget That B*tch aren’t about rebounding or proving something to anyone else. They’re about knowing your value and setting your own standards. When men in the program decide to date, they do it with intention, not desperation. Matt, who hadn’t dated in years, found himself enjoying the process for the first time because he was actually proud of who he’d become.
Finding Real Closure
So many men believe that closure comes from a final conversation or some kind of mutual understanding. In reality, closure happens when you stop waiting for someone else to give you permission to move forward. Forget That B*tch teaches that the only approval you need is your own. When Brian realized this, he finally stopped checking his phone for texts that were never coming. He took the final step of focusing on his own future, using the workbook to map out his next moves.
Action Is the Difference Maker
All the reading in the world won’t help unless you put the advice into practice. That’s what makes Forget That B*tch and its workbook different from most self-help books for men after divorce. The 12-week workbook is a guided system, not just for reflection but for real progress. Each exercise, challenge, and prompt is designed to keep you moving forward—no matter how tough things might feel some days. The men who see the most change are always the ones who commit to the process.
Your New Chapter Starts Now
If you’ve just come through a divorce or breakup and feel stuck, the right self-help book can be a turning point. Forget That B*tch and the 12-week workbook have helped countless men get unstuck, rebuild their lives, and move forward with real purpose. But the results only come if you take action. Your future is wide open—but you have to be the one to step into it.
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