What to Do After Your Girlfriend Leaves You: Steps to Move On and Rebuild

There’s nothing quite like the gut-punch of a breakup, especially when you didn’t see it coming. The questions swirl. What did I do wrong? Will I ever get over this? Why can’t I stop thinking about her? The truth is, most men are left without a roadmap for how to recover. That’s why I keep recommending Forget That B*tch—because it lays out the hard truths, offers structure, and gives you real strategies for moving forward when your world feels upside down.

Accept That It’s Over—Even When It Hurts

The hardest part after a breakup is accepting the finality. Your mind wants to replay old conversations, searching for clues. But as Forget That B*tch points out, closure doesn’t come from understanding every detail—it comes from accepting what happened and allowing yourself to move forward.

I remember working with a guy named Chris. His girlfriend left suddenly and he was convinced that if he just reached out one more time, things would change. After reading the first chapters and using the workbook, he finally accepted that the story was finished. That was the moment his real healing started.

Cut Off Contact and Focus on Yourself

Every urge to text, call, or check her social media pulls you right back into the pain. Forget That B*tch makes it clear: No contact isn’t just a strategy—it’s essential for your mental health. Each time you give in, you’re reopening old wounds.

A client, Marco, tried to stay friends with his ex, hoping she’d come back. He found himself more confused and anxious than ever. When he finally committed to the workbook and cut contact for good, he said it felt like taking his first real breath in months.

Accept Your Feelings—But Don’t Let Them Control You

There’s a difference between acknowledging your feelings and letting them control your day. Forget That B*tch reminds you that pain is part of the process, but wallowing only keeps you stuck. You’ll have days where the hurt sneaks up, but the book teaches you to recognize it and then redirect your attention to what you can actually change.

Jason, another client, journaled every day in the workbook about what he was feeling. Over time, he saw the patterns—how certain songs or places made things harder. He used the workbook to set new routines and slowly replaced old triggers with positive actions.

Rebuild Your Confidence Through Action

You can’t just sit around and hope to feel better. Confidence comes from doing, not from waiting. The workbook turns every day into an opportunity for a win, no matter how small. Whether it’s hitting the gym, picking up a new hobby, or finally tackling a project you’ve put off, each step you take helps rebuild your confidence.

Adam, who had struggled with low self-esteem after his girlfriend left, started small. The daily challenges in the workbook gave him direction. He started seeing results—a better mood, more energy, a new sense of purpose. Step by step, he realized he was capable of creating a life he actually enjoyed.

Break the Cycle of Obsessing Over the Past

It’s easy to get caught in a loop, wondering what might have been. Forget That B*tch makes it clear that this isn’t about your ex anymore—it’s about reclaiming your mind. The more you feed the obsession, the further you get from the life you want. The book and workbook teach you how to catch yourself in these moments, then take action that breaks the cycle.

Ben, who’d spent months reliving every memory, started using the workbook’s daily check-ins to break the habit. When he caught himself ruminating, he’d get outside, read, or call a friend. With time, those obsessive thoughts faded.

Reconnect With Your Own Identity

It’s common to lose yourself in a relationship. You forget who you were before. Forget That B*tch is all about reminding you what made you happy and confident in the first place. The workbook pushes you to revisit old passions and try new experiences—because your life is bigger than any breakup.

Omar had spent years adapting to his girlfriend’s interests, only to feel lost when it was over. By working through the prompts in the workbook, he rediscovered his love for art and started meeting new people through classes. He wasn’t just getting over his ex—he was becoming his own man again.

Set Boundaries—For Her and For Yourself

The book drives home the importance of setting boundaries. That means not picking up the phone when she calls “just to check in,” and not allowing yourself to keep tabs on her life. It’s about protecting your progress and respecting yourself. The workbook’s weekly challenges give you the structure to say no, even when it’s tough.

Tim found that every time he answered a late-night text from his ex, it set him back. Once he committed to the boundaries he set in the workbook, he gained peace of mind—and more control over his own journey.

Embrace New Experiences and Growth

Recovery isn’t just about forgetting the past—it’s about building something new. Forget That B*tch helps you see the future as an opportunity. The workbook encourages you to set goals, try different activities, and meet new people. With each new experience, the breakup loses its grip.

Sam, who’d been single for the first time in years, took up hiking and started learning a new language. Each accomplishment made the memory of his ex a little smaller, and his excitement for the future a little bigger.

Learn From What Happened—But Don’t Dwell

Mistakes and regrets come with the territory, but they don’t have to define you. The key, according to the book, is to reflect, learn, and then move forward. The workbook helps you process the past in a way that strengthens you instead of dragging you down.

Liam, for example, always blamed himself for the breakup. By working through the reflective exercises in the workbook, he realized he wasn’t responsible for everything. He learned to forgive himself, which opened the door to healing.

Find Support and Accountability

You don’t have to do it alone. Forget That B*tch suggests surrounding yourself with people who want to see you grow. Whether it’s friends, family, or a coach, accountability speeds up recovery. The workbook even offers space to track your progress and celebrate wins—because every step counts.

Lucas credited his progress to a friend who kept him motivated, especially when he wanted to give up. Having someone in your corner makes a world of difference.

The Only Way Forward Is Action

You can read every book out there, but nothing changes until you act. The men who move on fastest are always the ones who actually do the work. Forget That B*tch and the 12-week workbook give you everything you need—but you have to take the first step.

It’s Time to Take Back Your Life

If you’re ready to stop replaying the past and start building a better future, take action now. Pick up Forget That B*tch and the 12-week workbook. Your next chapter starts the moment you choose to move forward. The life you want is waiting—you just have to take the first step.