Guide to Getting Your Confidence Back Post-Breakup: Real Steps for Men

 There’s nothing quite like the hit to your self-esteem that comes after a breakup. Suddenly, the things that once felt certain—your plans, your future, your sense of who you are—can all feel up in the air. You might wonder if you’ll ever feel confident again. The good news? Confidence is a skill you can rebuild, and the right approach makes all the difference.

Forget That B*tch isn’t just a book—it’s a real-world guide that’s helped countless men get back on their feet. Combined with the 12-week workbook, it gives you a structure to follow and the daily challenges you need to take action, see results, and feel like yourself again.

Why Breakups Wreck Confidence

After a breakup, it’s normal for your mind to start second-guessing everything. Did you do enough? Were you good enough? Forget That B*tch explains that heartbreak often shakes a man’s self-worth because it feels so personal. The first step to getting your confidence back is realizing that your value was never tied to someone else’s approval.

One man I worked with, Matt, struggled for months after his relationship ended. He found himself questioning every move he made. It wasn’t until he started working through the book and using the workbook that he started to rebuild. The process reminded him that he could still trust himself and make decisions that were good for him.

Acceptance: The Foundation for Moving Forward

Forget That B*tch starts with a hard truth—healing begins with acceptance. Instead of fighting reality, the book teaches men to acknowledge what happened and stop replaying the past. Acceptance frees up mental space for new routines and healthier thinking.

Paul, a client who thought he could “fix” his breakup if he just tried hard enough, saw the biggest change when he finally accepted things were over. Once he let go of hope for a different outcome, he was able to focus on improving himself, not changing the past.

Why No Contact Helps You Get Stronger

No contact isn’t just a cliché—it’s a requirement. Reaching out to your ex, watching her social media, or waiting for her to text only keeps your self-esteem in limbo. Forget That B*tch makes this clear: your confidence returns when you stop looking for validation from someone who walked away.

A guy named Kevin had trouble letting go. He kept tabs on his ex, hoping for signs she missed him. Once he used the workbook to keep himself accountable, he finally cut off contact and felt real relief for the first time in months.

The Power of Taking Action

You can’t think your way out of low confidence—you have to act your way out. The best thing about the workbook is how it turns every lesson from Forget That B*tch into a daily challenge. Small wins add up: a morning walk, finishing a book, reconnecting with friends, or trying something new. With each action, you remind yourself what you’re capable of.

Jake, for example, started by setting just one small goal each day. As he checked off each win, he noticed his mood and self-belief improving. The workbook gave him structure and motivation, even on the tough days.

Rediscovering Your Strengths

After a breakup, it’s easy to forget what made you feel confident in the first place. Forget That B*tch pushes you to get back to basics. Remember the hobbies you enjoyed, the friends who had your back, the wins that made you proud. The workbook’s prompts help you take stock of your strengths and start investing in yourself again.

David lost himself in his last relationship. The daily reflection exercises helped him rediscover old passions—playing guitar, going for runs, even learning to cook. Each new habit made him feel more alive and sure of who he was.

Setting Boundaries That Protect Your Progress

The right boundaries are key to confidence. Forget That B*tch makes it clear: you need to set limits with your ex, with negative self-talk, and with old habits that hold you back. The workbook offers step-by-step guidance for practicing these boundaries in real life.

Sam found he kept getting pulled back into old conversations with his ex. Once he learned to say no—first to her, then to himself—he started to see himself as someone worth respecting. The workbook helped him stay consistent, which made all the difference.

Focusing on Growth, Not Perfection

Recovery isn’t about being perfect—it’s about progress. The men who bounce back the fastest are the ones who measure their growth by the actions they take, not by how fast they stop feeling pain. Forget That B*tch and the workbook are built on this idea: real change comes from showing up, even on the rough days.

Eli started journaling his daily wins, no matter how basic. Over time, he realized that confidence grows from seeing your own progress—even if it’s slower than you want.

Creating a Vision for Your Future

One of the most powerful sections of Forget That B*tch challenges you to think about what’s next. What do you want from your career, your health, your friendships, your life? The workbook asks you to set goals that excite you and break them down into daily actions.

Ben used to feel like his best days were behind him. But as he started working through his vision for the future, he got excited about possibilities again. The more he invested in what came next, the less power his breakup had over him.

Accountability and Support

No one gets their confidence back alone. Forget That B*tch suggests finding someone who can check in on your progress, whether it’s a friend, coach, or group. The workbook includes space to track your actions, so you can see just how far you’ve come.

Ricky said having a friend to text about his wins kept him on track, especially when motivation dipped. Sometimes, all it takes is a little encouragement to remember you’re not stuck forever.

Moving On, One Day at a Time

Getting your confidence back isn’t about a single breakthrough. It’s about consistent effort, learning from setbacks, and refusing to give up. Forget That B*tch and the workbook are about making real progress, one step at a time.

Martin once believed he’d never feel the same after his breakup. But as he put one foot in front of the other, his confidence returned—and he started to feel excited about the future again.

Take Back Your Confidence Now

You don’t have to stay stuck in self-doubt. If you’re ready to get your confidence back and start living again, don’t wait. Pick up Forget That B*tch and the 12-week workbook today. The life you want begins with the actions you take—start now and prove to yourself what you’re really capable of.