When the Voice in Your Head Isn’t Yours
If you’re anything like me—or like the thousands of men I’ve talked to—you didn’t just “get dumped.” You had your world flipped upside down. One minute, you were in a relationship or marriage, doing everything “right.” The next, you're lying in bed alone, scrolling through old texts, wondering how she could just walk away while you're left haunted by everything that went wrong.
What if I told you that the reason you can’t stop thinking about her isn’t because she was “the one” or because love is just that strong… but because you’ve been conditioned since childhood to stay stuck?
Yeah, I said it.
There’s a belief system in your head—one you never consciously chose—that’s holding you hostage. It’s the reason why you’re obsessing over your ex. It’s the reason why your relationships fell apart. And it’s the reason why you're stuck replaying a story that never ends with you winning.
This blog post is your wake-up call. And if you're ready to finally stop spinning your wheels and start moving on, keep reading.
And by the way, if you’re serious about fixing this, grab my free ebook Fine... Here's How to Get Her Back right now. It’s not what you think. You’ll learn why chasing her isn’t the answer—but why reading that book will give you the clarity you need. Here’s the link: https://comeonmanpod.gumroad.com/l/getherback
The Invisible Script Running Your Life
I call it a “paradigm.” It’s an invisible lens that colors everything you think and feel. You can’t see it, but it’s there. And unless you know how to find it and rewrite it, your subconscious will keep repeating the same old patterns—especially in relationships.
When you were a boy, you were told to be nice. You were taught that love means sacrifice. That good men put others first. That if you just treat her right, she’ll never leave. Sound familiar?
But here’s the gut punch: you were being trained to become dependent on female approval. You were being taught to put everyone else’s happiness above your own. You were being programmed to think love was something you earn by shrinking yourself.
And now, here you are. Thirty-five, forty-five, maybe even fifty. Divorced. Broken up. Still thinking about her. And wondering why doing “everything right” still wasn’t enough.
Brother, it’s not your fault you were lied to. But it is your responsibility to do something about it.
This is the exact stuff I cover in my upcoming book Forget That B*tch: A Red Pill Guide to Breakups, coming to Amazon and Audible this June. You can pre-order the Kindle edition here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F7GRVN8T
When the Bedroom Goes Cold… So Does the Connection
Here’s something no one tells you: when your wife or girlfriend starts pulling away, it’s not always about you directly—it’s about how you show up energetically. When your frame collapses, when your confidence slips, when your neediness creeps in… the spark dies.
You try to kiss her. She turns away. You reach out in the night. She pretends to be asleep. You start talking about “us” and she suddenly needs space. You’re not just dealing with heartbreak. You’re dealing with an identity crisis.
And the worst part? You think more love, more effort, more “understanding” will win her back.
But it won’t.
Because what she needs—what every woman needs—is a man who stands firm in his frame. A man who leads with clarity. Who doesn’t bend for approval. Who doesn’t crumble at rejection.
That’s why Forget That B*tch goes deeper than breakup clichés. It rewires the foundation that got you here. It teaches you to rebuild from the inside out so you never end up in this place again. Pre-order the book here.
Why You Keep Falling for the Same Trap
I’ve seen it over and over. You start watching some content, get fired up, maybe even hit the gym again. And then… she texts.
Just a little breadcrumb. “Hope you’re doing okay.”
Bam. Dopamine hit. You think, “She’s thinking about me!” You imagine some magical reconciliation. You picture her crying, apologizing, begging for you back.
But you know what’s really happening?
She’s checking to see if you’re still available. Still waiting. Still weak. You’re her emotional safety net, not her man.
And because your paradigm hasn’t changed, you take the bait. And the cycle starts again.
It’s not love. It’s ego. It’s the fear of being alone. And until you reprogram that, you’ll keep falling into rebound relationships, chasing unavailable women, and sabotaging your healing.
That’s why I’m telling every man reading this to download my free ebook Fine… Here's How to Get Her Back right now. It’s a setup—because once you read it, you’ll realize that you don’t want her back. You want yourself back. Grab it here: https://comeonmanpod.gumroad.com/l/getherback
The Real Work Begins When You Stop Chasing Her
You want to feel like a man again? You want that grounded confidence? You want to walk into a room and feel that magnetism?
Then stop trying to prove you’re worthy of her.
Start proving you’re worthy of the life you want.
Forget what she’s doing. Forget who she’s with. Forget what she thinks.
You need to rebuild your own frame. Your masculine core. Your emotional resilience. That’s how you create polarity. That’s how you inspire desire. That’s how you stop being someone’s backup plan—and become the man she never thought she could lose.
I coach guys through this every single day. And if you're ready to take this seriously, you need to pre-order Forget That B*tch and get the free ebook while you’re at it. The combination of those two will give you the blueprint to never end up in this situation again.
Here’s the link to the book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F7GRVN8T
Here’s the link to the free ebook: https://comeonmanpod.gumroad.com/l/getherback
Final Thoughts: Knowing Isn’t Enough—You Have to Act
Let’s get real, brother. You’ve spent weeks, maybe months, thinking about her. Wondering what went wrong. Blaming yourself. Wishing things were different.
But now you know the truth.
There’s an invisible paradigm keeping you stuck. A script you’ve been living out since you were a boy. And it’s cost you time, confidence, and connection.
You can’t heal in the same frame that broke you.
This blog was the wake-up call. Forget That B*tch is the solution. And the free ebook? That’s the first step to clarity.
Stop saying you’ll figure it out on your own. You’ve tried that. It’s time to stop spinning your wheels and start owning your path.
You deserve a life where you don’t obsess over your ex. Where you lead your relationships with strength. Where you attract, inspire, and command respect—because of who you are, not what you give.
Pre-order the book here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0F7GRVN8T
Download the free ebook here: https://comeonmanpod.gumroad.com/l/getherback
This is your next move. Make it count.
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