If you’ve read Forget That B*tch
and finally moved on from heartbreak, congratulations. You’ve rebuilt your
confidence, found someone new, and started over stronger than before. But
here’s what most men never realize—getting her isn’t the finish line. Keeping
her attracted, invested, and inspired is the real game. That’s the next level
of the work, and it’s the foundation of my upcoming book, Keep Your B*tch
This next chapter
isn’t about manipulation or control—it’s about leadership, consistency, and
energy. It’s about becoming the man who doesn’t have to worry about losing
attraction, because he knows how to sustain it.
Over the years, I’ve
coached men who came out of divorce or long-term breakups and finally found a
new relationship. They started strong, but months later, they’d notice
something changing. The spark faded. The tension dulled. The woman who used to
hang on every word began pulling away. It’s not because she stopped loving
them—it’s because they stopped leading.
Attraction isn’t a
trophy you win once—it’s a fire that needs fuel.
Why Attraction Fades After the Honeymoon
At first, attraction
feels automatic. You’re exciting, new, mysterious. She’s curious about your
world and drawn to your energy. But once comfort sets in, most men make a
critical mistake—they start prioritizing peace over polarity.
You stop taking the
lead. You start asking for approval. You relax into comfort.
In Keep Your
B*tch, I explain that attraction is built on polarity—the tension between
masculine direction and feminine energy. When you let go of your purpose, you
let go of your leadership. And when that happens, she begins to feel uncertain
without knowing why.
As I wrote in Forget
That B*tch, “A woman doesn’t want to be your world. She wants to orbit
around it.” When your mission disappears, her attraction does too.
Leadership Is What Keeps Her Invested
True leadership in a
relationship isn’t about control—it’s about direction. A woman feels safe,
feminine, and inspired when she’s with a man who knows where he’s going.
One of my coaching
clients, Derek, thought he was doing everything right. He was loyal,
consistent, and attentive. But after two years, his girlfriend said she “just
didn’t feel it anymore.” What she really meant was that he’d lost his edge. He
had stopped making decisions, stopped planning, and started reacting to her
moods instead of setting the tone.
Once Derek started
applying the leadership principles I teach—staying grounded, making confident
decisions, and keeping his own purpose first—everything changed. Her energy
softened, her affection returned, and the spark reignited.
That’s the power of
leadership.
Understanding Frame
Frame is the energy
that defines who sets the emotional tone in your relationship. When you hold
your frame, you stay calm when she’s emotional. You stay decisive when she’s
uncertain. You stay focused when she’s testing your strength.
In Keep Your
B*tch, I write that “her storms only knock you over if you stop being the
anchor.”
Frame isn’t
something you talk about—it’s something you project. The moment you start
seeking validation or over-explaining yourself, your frame crumbles. But when
you remain calm and grounded, she feels your strength—and attraction reignites
instantly.
Complacency Is the Silent Killer
Most relationships
don’t end because of cheating or drama—they die from comfort. Complacency is
what happens when a man forgets that attraction needs tension.
It’s easy to confuse
comfort with connection. You tell yourself things are good because there’s no
conflict, but peace without passion is just quiet decay.
One of my clients,
Mark, thought he had the perfect marriage until his wife told him she “wasn’t
in love anymore.” He didn’t see it coming because everything seemed fine. But
what she meant was that he’d stopped inspiring her. Once he started focusing on
his growth—fitness, mindset, purpose—she started seeing him differently.
In Forget That
B*tch, I taught men how to rebuild after loss. In Keep Your B*tch, I
teach them how to never lose that spark again.
Calm Strength Beats Words Every Time
You can’t talk a
woman into attraction. You can only make her feel it. That’s why calm strength
matters more than anything you say.
A client named Chris
used to argue constantly with his girlfriend. She’d pick fights, and he’d try
to fix things with logic or long explanations. But the more he explained, the
more distant she became. When he learned to stay calm, say less, and hold his
frame, her tone changed instantly. She started apologizing. She leaned back in.
She didn’t want him
to win the argument—she wanted to feel his steadiness.
Women test because
they crave certainty. When you stay composed, you pass every test without
saying a word.
Growth Is the Ultimate Aphrodisiac
A man who keeps
growing never loses attraction. Progress is magnetic—it signals vitality,
direction, and ambition.
In Forget That
B*tch, I talked about rebuilding after loss. In Keep Your B*tch, I
show men how to maintain that same growth mindset once they’re in a
relationship. When your woman sees you improving—physically, mentally,
financially—she feels drawn to you. When you plateau, she starts to doubt.
One of my students,
Henry, used to stop working on himself as soon as he got comfortable in a
relationship. His attraction would always fade, and he couldn’t figure out why.
When he learned that women respond to growth as much as confidence, everything
clicked. Within months of focusing on his progress again, his relationship
transformed.
Boundaries Create Desire
Most men are afraid
to set boundaries because they think it’ll push her away. In reality,
boundaries are what make her respect you.
A man without
boundaries becomes predictable—and predictability kills desire.
I tell men this in Keep
Your B*tch: “She can only admire what she can’t control.”
When you stop
tolerating disrespect, you send a message of strength. At first, she might
resist, but once she feels your consistency, she’ll relax into your leadership.
Women feel safest with men who enforce their standards calmly and firmly.
You Can’t Fix Her Feelings
One of the hardest
truths for men to accept is that you can’t fix your woman’s emotions with
logic. She doesn’t want you to solve her problems—she wants to feel your
stability.
When she’s upset,
she’s not looking for answers. She’s checking if you’re still strong enough to
handle her storms. The moment you panic or overreact, she feels unsafe.
That’s why emotional
control is the centerpiece of Keep Your B*tch A man who can stay
grounded during emotional moments becomes irresistible. He’s the calm in her
chaos.
What Makes Keep Your B*tch Different
This isn’t a book
about “being nice” or overanalyzing communication. It’s a practical field
manual for men who’ve already rebuilt after heartbreak and want to build
something that lasts.
Every concept in Keep
Your B*tch builds on the foundation of Forget That B*tch.
The first book taught you how to let go and move forward. This one teaches you
how to lead with strength, keep attraction alive, and make your relationship
better every year instead of worse.
You’ll learn how to:
- Maintain your purpose and
polarity.
- Hold your frame through emotional
storms.
- Set boundaries that command
respect.
- Keep her attracted for the long
term.
These aren’t
theories—they’re real strategies used by men who’ve transformed their
relationships.
The Game Doesn’t End When You Get Her
Men often treat
attraction like a finish line—once she’s yours, you relax. But relationships
aren’t trophies; they’re living dynamics. The moment you stop leading, the
connection begins to fade.
Keep Your B*tch is about mastering that dynamic. It’s about making sure you never find
yourself blindsided again, wondering what went wrong. Because when you stay
grounded, purposeful, and growing, she’ll keep choosing you every single day.
Stay the Man She Chose
You worked hard to
rebuild yourself after heartbreak. Don’t lose that fire now. Keep leading. Keep
growing. Keep your frame.
If you haven’t
already, start with Forget
That B*tch to understand the foundation. Then, when Keep Your B*tch
releases this December, you’ll be ready for the next level.
Because real
strength isn’t about getting the woman—it’s about keeping her inspired to stay.
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